Identity
Who are you now, after the season that changed things?
Why this question matters
Divorce, bereavement or a long illness rearranges more than a schedule. Names, roles and the way rooms greet you all change.
The question is not who you used to be. It is who you actually are now, which takes time to know and longer to say.
You may be carrying
- A label you did not choose and do not enjoy explaining
- Comparison with people whose lives went to plan
- Confidence that comes and goes without warning
- Genuine growth you find hard to take credit for
Consider this
- Write the description of yourself that has nothing to do with relationship status.
- Notice which parts of the old self you actually miss, and which you have outgrown.
- Consider who knew you before, and still knows you now.
A question to sit with
What is true about you now that was not true five years ago?
What others may be carrying
The same situation is lived differently by different people. In one conversation you might be sitting with:
- Someone widowed young
- Someone whose identity changed through caregiving
- Someone who feels overlooked rather than changed
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